Procreation And The Erroneous Idea Of Legacy

A society like ours make seeing households with 7 children and above as the norm. Especially if the family in question wanted a particular gender which in most cases are male children, the number of children gotten in their quest is excused because they finally got their dream. I mostly don’t have an issue with that. What I find problematic is that doing this while in poverty with the excuse that the children will become rich or that God will take care of them, so the parents drop children like raindrops on a rainy day waiting for the children to grow up and lift them out of poverty. However, we see thousands of these children every day, prancing the streets, missing the fundamental requirements of a child.

Being Humble Without Self Depreciating

This something I’ve wanted to pen down but got the needed boost after seeing Issa Rae’s speech for Women In Film Gala. As humans, women especially, humility is a required quality. This is great, especially for me as a Christian. However, I’ve realised that it has become very easy to reduce yourself to accommodate others and feed their ego.

From The Dandelion, Came The Bamboo.

As I relaunch my blog, I thought about all the cool names to name my blog, which seemed fitting since I want to establish myself as a brand – a purpose driven woman. However, I still stuck to OnyinyeOlufunmi, a combination of my first (Igbo) and middle (Yoruba) name because I don’t think anything else captures my essence. Not either of them alone, but as it, delicately woven together to reflect who I was, I am and will be.

Picture Consent and Social Media

Yesterday, I was at a wedding party when a little girl of about 3 (I think) tugged at my gown and wanted me to carry her. I looked up and saw her father smiling and gesturing that I could carry her. She is a cute baby; she smelt of coconut oil and vanilla extract so I didn’t put her down even when my arms started to ache.

What Causes Rape – 2

When it comes to rape, I prefer to focus on the dispositional factors and not situational factors because I refuse to believe that the victim or environment is somehow responsible for what has been done to them. After the first part, someone sent me a long message justifying why prostitutes “slutty girls” should be raped. According to her since they have already had sex before it doesn’t change anything and there is nothing like spousal rape.

What Causes Rape – 1

“Shalewa, what causes rape?”

“Victim’s dressing, beauty, sexual appeal, drunken state, hairstyle, body signal. When the victim stays out late, goes to visit a stranger, parties with the opposite sex. In fact, rape will be prevented if girls are moral.”

A round of applause for Shalewa, who represents our dear society that consistently sites the above reasons for rape either assertively or subliminally.

The Demonic Culture

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I had this nice handmade cowrie necklace on some days ago and someone said to me, probably to save me from eternal damnation “Cowries are demonic, don’t use it”. I found the advise hilarious and wondered if the devil handcrafted the necklace or if the Hausa man who made it with leather and sold to me was the devil.

Introverted Extrovert

We all know what introvert and extrovert mean and most will agree they are distinct opposites of each other. According to psychology (Carl Jung), extroverts are gregarious, assertive, enthusiastic while introverts are reserved, reflective. Both traits, however, are not mutually exclusive but are a continuous single personality trait, meaning not everyone falls into the two distinct ends. Those who are in the middle are called ambivert.

The Spinster Above 30

The big 3 zero, when you can confidently say “grown woman” and flip your hair proudly. While I’m not 30 yet, allow me to write this from the perspective of a 30-year-old woman named Lola. If Lola, isn’t okay, we can change it… Lola is? Good! Now, allow Lola to tell you her story about being a spinster above 30.

The mini world of Albinos

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I was thinking of what to blog about, I wanted to talk about something we would not ordinarily talk about, a topic that doesn’t pop up in our everyday conversation except we are confronted with it. I finally settled on albinism for the funny reason of A for April, A for albinism. It was a perfect way to make it more fun. We see albinos around us, sometimes we don’t care, other times we look at them with curiosity. Before I delve into the reality of albinism, I featured two albino models based on my A for April, A for Albinism. Read about Shaun Ross and Thando Hopa